Helicopter Parents continue to micromanage their children while focusing on their own needs rather than the needs of their children. One parent moved into her daughter’s dorm and slept there for four days until the room-mate kicked her out. Check out the video below to see what I mean.
While this has been going on for many years, it appears to be getting out of hand. The net result is a workforce unable to make decisions or problem solve.
Yes, the new workforce is highly educated. Many join the employment ranks with an MBA in hand but without the ability to make decisions or problem solve.
Very good reasons
I understand the pain of pushing your little bird out of the next and the psychological effects on you as a parent. I too had separation anxiety when my son Charles transitioned into adulthood. An empty nest feels, well, empty.
It is a necessary component of parenthood though, because in order for your children to be successful in life, they must learn self-reliance. Consider what would happen if something happened to you, how would they survive?
I’ve experienced it in my seminars
I’ve seen the results of micromanaged young adults in my seminars. When presented with a case study to generate ideas and find business solutions the respond with a blank stare. They really don’t know where to start.
Now, if they are presented with a group of ideas, they can take the ball and hit it out of the park. Coming up with their own ideas is difficult and I blame it on their parents.
Here’s why, when parents consistently make decisions for their adult children, these young adults miss the opportunity to learn self-reliance and problem solving skills.
My message to College Students
It’s time for you to step up and take responsibility for your own actions. That’s why I am pleased to see you asking Mom and Dad to take a hike in the video. I recommend you tell your parents:
“Drop me off at school and leave. I’ll be fine. I’ll learn how to take care of myself. Then after graduation I will more prepared to go out into the world and make my own way. I promise, I will make you proud of me.”
It will be difficult for many of your parents to let go, as their intentions are good. They want to take care of you. But you need to take control of your own life now to ensure your future success.
The reporter in the story shared a little video from his own son requesting “Mom, Dad, It’s time to let go.” Good for you, that’s the first step of growing up and taking responsibility for yourself.
Your comments are welcome. Please share your thoughts or experiences with this. I’d love to hear from you.